There is always a day before.
The day before you meet the love of your life, the day before you get that new job, the day before you find out you are pregnant, the day before you see an old friend who inspires you.
And you don’t know it is coming.
You don’t know that super blast of happy is about to whirl into your belly, rise you high into a phenomenal state of happiness and change your emotional life.
But,
These days are always coming.
Always.
I make it real point to look for happiness, to seek it, to bathe in it to a degree (certainly when the bubble bath runs out.) Because misery finds us easily and our nature is to recall the bad over the good. I guarantee you, for every 5 compliments you get, you will remember the one criticism. We are programmed to recall the pain rather than the positive.
But all hard wiring can be rewritten.
Once you believe it, your story is truly yours to tell.
Don’t risk not making it to the end.
Because it could be your day before.
The world is yours to mould, but like everything else you have to work for what you want. Seek happy, be the person you want to love, find peace with not being able to see the future.
The moments of happiness in my life always overwhelm the poor ones. I still recall how incredible my wedding day was, far more than the pain of divorce – I wouldn’t change it for the world for the pure joy I felt that day. The moment I found out my children were on their way, the precious moment of when they were placed in my arms and the surge of true love overwhelmed me – I can relive this emotion for ever, it eradicates any cross words we have had since the day of their birth.
First loves, lost loves, holidays, dipping toes in the sea, cuddles at bedtime, watching The Tiger That came to Tea – all incredible days – which all had a day before.
I don’t remember the day before – but I remember the happy.
So, I seek it out, I force myself to look for it, see friends, see family, walk in the woods, play with my dog, do a job I love and cherish my family.
And on days, when am grumpy, or not sure how I feel, I wonder what it is the day before of?
Because something good is always coming.
Ahh Jane this is beautiful. And true. Looking bad (apart from D day) I don’t really remember the bad stuff at all. Just the lovely moments!